Wednesday, March 5, 2014

Wednesday (3/5/2014)

Update:

I am so glad for the warmer weather.  I hope that the snow and ice begins to disappear off of my driveway so that I can regain my freedom.  On Monday, I had a hard time finding a place where my foot wouldn’t slip when I tried to stand up.  Karen actually had to move the car to a different spot before I could safely transfer from my wheelchair to the car.  Getting out is just not worth the risk of me slipping and injuring myself; so I’ve been staying home.  It is hard after having a taste of freedom a couple of weeks ago.  Oh well, I know that the ice and snow will soon be off my driveway.  I just need to be patient.

Wearing the silicone liner for long periods of time isn’t a problem.  It is very comfortable and I was told that very few people have trouble adjusting to it.  When I take it off, my leg is rather gross and sweaty; so I have to wash my leg with warm water and soap before I put my shrinker sock back on.  If my leg gets like that when it is relatively cold outside, what will it be like this summer?  Now I understand why all the instructions tell you to wash your leg, and the inside of the silicone liner, etc. every day.  It won’t be hard to remember that it needs to be done.

I’ve noticed that getting ready for bed and then getting ready for the day both take longer now.  I started my routine earlier last night but the sleep monster was grabbing at me pretty hard by the time I actually made it to bed.  Right now it feels like one minute I am wide awake and the next minute I can’t keep my eyes open.  The positive thing is that I don’t lie in bed tossing and turning unable to get to sleep!  “Good Nig...Zzzzz” and my head hits the pillow.  So far I’ve managed to get my light turned off before I go to sleep; but it wouldn't surprise me if some morning I wake up and find the lights on.

I found out that trying to squeeze your shoulder blades together when you do other exercises must be an acquired skill. I feel very uncoordinated and unsuccessful trying to do it right now.  I guess whatever I do will be better than nothing at all. 

Last night I made “Mock Mash Potatoes.”  They are actually made with beans so there is no starch.  I’ve had trouble with adding too much “Better Than Bullion” to the recipe and they come out too salty tasting.  Last night it happened again.  What is going on?  So I decided to make a note to myself in the cookbook “Use ½ amount of bullion” or something like that.  Just as I was about to write it in, I noticed the recipe called for 1 Tsp. not 1 Tbl.  Now I get it!  I’ve been putting in a tablespoon of bullion instead of a teaspoon.  What’s that like three times as much as called for—no wonder they are so salty!  People who write cookbooks should spell the words out or only capitalize Tablespoon and not teaspoon for use by the “measuring handicapped” (That’s what I am—I even have one leg shorter than the other!  So one leg doesn’t “measure up”).  What is so hilarious is that there are two other items marked the same exact way (Tsp.) and I’ve always read those as teaspoons; but for some reason when I see bullion, I read tablespoon!?!

Thought for the Day:

My buddy Mel is feeling some better after his surgery, so our Elder team will be gathering at his house on Wednesday morning for a meeting.  It is rather strange how I feel when I compare my situation to Mel’s.  He’ll never walk again.  He will always be wheelchair bound.  I’ll be up and walking soon with a prosthetic leg.  I’ll need a wheelchair only a small part of the time.  At this point, almost all of my old activities and hobbies are potentially possible for me to regain.  There will be some limitations, but I’ll get many if not most of them back in some fashion.  I know that I will never be able to take out the trash or wash dishes ever again with my disability (Okay, I made that last sentence up; but maybe I can sell it to my wife!). It may take me time to acquire enough proficiency with my leg to do them; but I can look forward to a time when it may be.  My buddy Mel; not so. Hopefully as he overcomes the pain issue he has been having, he will be able to do more…but many things are gone and will remain gone forever.

I’ve got to say that it bothers me at times to think about these things.  I feel almost guilty for where my life is heading knowing that Mel cannot make that journey with me.  Maybe that is how people feel when they look at me.  Although I fine with what has happened and what I’ll be facing for the rest of my life; some people I know seem to struggle with it all.  They are more upset with it than I have ever been.  I’ve accepted that this is God’s plan for my life and I am grateful to be here at all and I get a second chance to enjoy life still.  My life isn’t perfect; but it wasn’t perfect before my amputation either.  So why get distraught over it all? 

From what I can tell this is the same attitude that Mel has.  Like me, I would guess that he has his moments at times; but he has a very positive outlook overall.  I’m glad that both of us have a faith in God to rely upon and someone to turn to when we are not on top of everything.  In my life, it really is a God thing.  My attitude isn’t forced or contrived.  I really am grateful and content (except that I want winter to be over very badly).   But with Mel’s condition, it seems much more unfair.  If it was temporary—OK; but a permanent disability and limitations—that is so unfair.  So when I watch him work through these things with faith and integrity, it inspires and encourages me.  He has told me that my attitude and outlook, inspires him; so we have a bit of a perpetual motion machine going on here. 

The only thing that I can cling to is my faith in God.  If you stop and read through the bible, there are numerous times when people are hurting or have witnessed a great tragedy and they question God, “How long, oh Lord?”  As people we question things that don’t seem right.  We struggle against injustice and things that don’t seem fair.  Why should good people or young children have to struggle with trauma in their lives? Over and over again God is questioned about these things.  The answer they are given doesn’t seem to satisfying until you think about it.  Most answers given are on the lines of, “I am God.”  What?  How does that answer the problem of evil and pain and suffering?  “I am God.” 

And finally it hits me.  God is infinite, I am finite.  He is limitless; I am very limited.  He knows everything down to the smallest detail; I know a few things moderately well—and most things I barely understand.  He is all-powerful, all-loving, patient and merciful.  All that being said, even if God were to try to explain it to me—I would never be able to comprehend what He was talking about.  It is enough to remember that He knows and that He is able.  It isn’t exactly the answer I was hoping for—but it is the answer I needed to hear.

Maybe nothing that I wrote makes any sense (or it seems rather pointless); but I find trying to express my thoughts on paper very therapeutic.  “Hi!  I am Steve…and I have a leg problem…”   And the group answers in response, “Hi, Steve!”  Thanks for being there for me, group!



No comments:

Post a Comment