Friday, May 9, 2014

Thursday (5/8/2014)

Update:

I spent the day on Wednesday working on the wedding ceremony I am to perform on Saturday afternoon for Steve and Carol.   I also began working on my message for Sunday church and worked updating some records that I have left attended for a while.  I also stayed off of my foot to rest it after the busy day yesterday.

The AWANA Awards ceremony was held on Wednesday evening.  AWANA is our church’s mid-week children’s program for pre-school through high school that runs throughout the school year.  Prior to my amputation, I helped run the program for 3rd-6th grade boys and ran the game time for older clubbers. I never felt like I had enough energy in the evening to go back to help after that, so I left Randy, our leader, and Kent to cover for me.  But I told Randy that I would do the devotional message during the awards ceremony that closes out the year.  So I helped out Randy by doing that for him last night.

Immediately after the awards ceremony, I had a ride along scheduled with a police officer in Altoona.  With that ride, I am officially back in service with both police departments and the fire department that I serve as chaplain.  I am thankful to my congregation for allowing me the opportunity to have a dual service to my church as pastor and then to these departments as chaplain.  My denomination has a number of chaplains serving in the military and a fair number of chaplains in nursing homes, etc.; but there are very few of us who have the honor of serving our communities as police or fire chaplains.  This has been a good fit with my background, gifts and ability.  One of my bachelor degrees is in Criminal Justice.  After the military and prior to seminary, I worked as a part-time weekend employee of a small sheriff’s department as a jailer/dispatcher.  While in the military I probably should have been an MP but the army in its wisdom thought otherwise.  If I hadn’t decided to become a pastor—I probably would have stayed in the military or became a cop.  So I am very comfortable working alongside these fine men and women to assist them and those in our community whom we serve. 

Thought for the Day: 

Have you ever been emotionally stuck?  Author Les Brown says, “The good times we put in our pocket.  The bad times we put in our heart.”   For whatever reason, negative events tend to stick with us and affect us more deeply than the positive ones.  Sometimes those events hurt us so badly that we get emotionally stuck and we can’t seem to move on.  One example of that might be a person who has suffered a painful marriage and divorce.  That person will often put up barriers and wall in an effort to protect themselves from others getting close enough to harm them.  In the process, those walls also won’t allow the person to love deeply and build a healthy relationship with someone new.  They are emotionally stuck in the past.

“It cannot be denied that our lives are filled with loss.  Some losses are great; some are small.  And the losses we face affect our mental health.  Some people handle it well, while others don’t.  The quality that distinguishes a successful person from an unsuccessful one who is otherwise like him is the capacity to manage disappointment and loss.  This is a challenge because losses can often defeat us mentally… Harry Neale, the coach of the Vancouver Canucks in the 1980’s said, ‘Last year we couldn’t win on the road, and this year we can’t win at home.  I don’t know where else to play!’   …As losses build up, they become more of a burden.  We regret the losses of yesterday.  We fear the losses of tomorrow.  Regret saps our energy.  We can’t build on regret.  Fear of the future distracts us and fills us with apprehension.  …We need to expect mistakes, failures, and losses in life, since each of us will face many of them.  But we need to take them as they come, not allow them to build up.  As printer William A. Ward said, ‘Man, like a bridge, was designed to carry the load for a moment, not the combined weight of a year all at once.’”  [John Maxwell, Some Times You Win, Sometimes You Learn].

How well do you deal with loss and failure?  Are you able to shake it off and bounce right back?  Or does defeat hang on and build up, weighing you down more and more with each passing day?

I’m obviously not going to answer every question and give every solution in this short thought; but here is the foundation piece that must be laid in your life.  You can choose what you will dwell upon and ultimately what will define you.  You cannot change your past, nor can you eradicate pain and loss from your future.  It is like playing a game of cards.  Life has dealt you with a hand—you have to decide how you are going to play those cards.

Where most of us struggle is in forgiving ourselves (as well as the others who have hurt us) and moving on with our lives.  For Christians, this is a bit easier since we have learned forgiveness in the example of God towards us.  We recognize that Christ paid for the sins of the world with His very life.  Not only did He pay for every one of our sins; He paid for the sins of everyone who has every harmed us or hurt us as well.  We are told that we are to mimic God, in forgiving others who have harmed us.

Colossians 3:13 “bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.” (ESV)

That is often the easiest part compared to the next thing that we must do.  We cannot continue to dwell upon those events.  It is only natural to continually go over the events that transpired that got you emotionally stuck; but that continued reminiscing is not healthy for you if it keeps going on and on.  Eventually you have to move on.  You do that by remembering that you already forgave the other person (or yourself) and now you need to stop dwelling upon it.  You choose not to keep thinking about it.  You force your mind to think about other things.  As you continue to focus your attention elsewhere, you eventually come to the point where you don’t automatically keep coming back to your emotional “ground zero.” 

A car that just spins its wheels and digs a deeper hole for itself isn’t doing anybody any good.  Likewise, people who are stuck emotionally don’t do themselves (or the others around them) any good.  Do yourself a favor and work at getting unstuck so you can move on and enjoy life.


Philippians 3:13b   “…But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead,” (ESV).

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