Friday, January 10, 2014

Friday (1/10/2014)

Update:

I had a great dinner together with David on Thursday evening.  He showed up and helped me finish the food preparation that would had been very difficult for me to accomplish sitting down.  We had some good laughs especially when we were in the kitchen and I was using the spray hose to rinse off some of the food processor parts.  David made some comment and I teasingly threatened to spray him but instead got myself a little wet.  So I let go of the spray hose handle and the water came full blast out of the faucet.  The things in the sink were just at the right angle so that the water came shooting out of the sink drenching me.  It took me a minute to figure out what was happening because mentally I figured that I was getting myself wet with the hose.  I finally realized that I had to actually turn the water off.  It was rather humorous, so I laughed the entire time I was changing into dry clothes.  Later, we got laughing again as he watched me do my exercises.  Laying on my back and doing the “bicycle” must look really funny with one full-length leg and the other drastically shorter. 

This morning (Friday), my friend Ryan is coming to get me and we are going to Mouldy’s to shoot our bows.  I spent some time on Thursday learning how to transfer to a stool and then pulling back my bow.  I took a lot of poundage off of the bow since I don’t need to worry about hunting right now.  It takes a lot more muscle to pull the same amount of weight when you are seated compared to standing anyway.  I don’t want to strain and struggle to pull the bow back—that ruins the fun factor pretty quickly and a good way to pull a back muscle. 

Tonight is opening night for Karen’s play, “Knights of the Round Table.”  The performance is at 7:30 p.m. on Friday and Saturday; and a matinee on Sunday at the State Theatre in Eau Claire.  Lots of sword play and even storming a castle wall in this play.  There will also be a number of people from the Renaissance Fair who will come in costume and help set the tone in the audience.  The cast and crew have put in some long, hard, and cold hours preparing for this event.  Should be fun to watch.  Hope you can come and catch a performance!    I am going to see it on Friday night.

Ruth and Cody are due in from Chicago for the weekend.  Our daughter, Ruth, has always enjoyed the theatre so she had to come home to see the production.    I don’t know how much time I will actually get to spend with them; but it is always good to have them home.

Thought for the Day:

Remember that everything is relative.  After having near record lows with dangerous wind chills down in the -50 to -60 range and days without end with the high in the negative teens, warmer weather has finally arrived.  My wife who is very cold nature told me how nice it was yesterday.  “It felt so warm.  It was 17 above!”  Those are strange words to hear come out of her mouth.  But everyone around here is thinking the same thing.  Today we should hit 32 degrees!  I figure that kids will be walking to school in shorts today (don’t laugh; I’ve seen it happen before with weather like this—Wisconsin kids, go figure).  There even maybe a few people sunbathing over the weekend.   A seventy degree change in temperature over a few days’ time period throws you off balance a bit.

A number of years back, we would take our teens from the church down to Mexico for a mission trip during the summer.  We normally went in late July and were always greeted with oppressive heat in Mexico.  If we had 75 degrees, they had at least 100.  We were baking!   So our youth pastor, Jeff, and I decided that to beat the heat, we would go as soon as the kids were out of school in late May or early June.  We found out that it didn’t matter what time of year we went there was always at least a 25 degree difference and we felt hot.    Remember that everything is relative. 

Before my hospitalization, I thought that getting poked in the arm and giving blood at a Red Cross Blood Drive was pretty sacrificial of me because of the discomfort of needles.  After getting poked and prodded in the hospital for eight days, a Blood Drive is nothing.  Before my amputation, I used to think that getting a paper cut was a big deal; now it is nothing.  I used to think that what I now know as discomfort was pain.  I am more aware of the difference between the two now.  Remember that everything is relative. 

I spent a total of eight long, miserable days in the hospital this winter.  I was so happy when I was released and got to roll out of those doors and get into the car to drive home.  It was so hard to be in the hospital that long!  I have a friend who has been in the hospital for over 60 days (and still counting).  I cannot imagine being there that long.  Eight days is really nothing after all.

I haven’t walked for over a month; sitting all the time and being in a wheel chair is really getting to me.  I’ve got another month to go before I even start being prepped to wear a prosthesis and walk again.  It seems like forever!  Having my leg amputated below the knee is the biggest change I have ever had in my life.  It is the first thing that I have faced that will not change until I die (most illnesses you recover from and go back to the way you were).  I get frustrated by my limitations.  I can’t reach that.  I can’t go upstairs or downstairs to the basement or out to the garage.  I need people to come give me rides.  All those things seem pretty major to me!  But then I think about my friend, Mel who will never walk again after injuring his spine this past summer.  He’s got both legs but neither of them work.  He will be in a wheel chair until he dies.  I’ll get a prosthesis and walk again.  Mel won’t walk until he goes to heaven and gets his glorified (and fully functional) body.  I have a life time of disability ahead of me—but it is very minor compared to Mel’s.  Remember that everything is relative. 

No matter how bad I think I have it—there is someone who has it worse.  If I merely focus upon my own circumstances it is easy to have a pity party given in my honor.  If I raise my head and change my perspective, I realize that I don’t have it bad at all in comparison.  In fact, I have a lot to be thankful for! 

And so it is with you.  No matter what you are going through, someone has it worse.  Whatever level of pain you’ve got, it is nothing compared to what others are experiencing.   All you have to do is to raise your eyes off of yourself and look around to see it.  So what?  It gives you perspective.  It helps you recognize that your life isn’t all that bad.   It allows you to get back up on top of your situation instead of being buried under the weight of it.  Remember that everything is relative. 

I see someone else who has it worse than I do and they have figured out a way to make it work.  I go to Mexico and see families living together in room the size of my shed in the backyard, who cook over a fire with the one pot that they own; who may have one change of clothes and I realize that I am just whining when I think I have it tough.  Perspective gives me courage to stand up and move forward.  My perception of what is difficult and impossible change and I begin to see things as possible and not that hard.  Remember that everything is relative. 


So if you are feeling a bit like a turtle (and we’ve all been there), poke your head out of your shell and look around.  Gain some perspective.  And go after life with a renewed sense of understanding and maturity.  Remember that everything is relative.  

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